Thursday, 26 July 2012

Being receptive for an Asperger's husband

Since I last asked myself if I have Asperger's Syndrome, I starting to ponder how my life fits into my relationship with members of family, especially my wife.

Being a woman, their emotional needs are typically a lot stronger than that of a man. The needs to be loved and to be attended to are all part of being what I need to provide for their emotional needs. 

The other aspects of their emotional need comes from being receptive to their body language and their emotional signals. The emotional signal is something they project to give me a sense of how they are, emotionally. For example, she could give a particular look to say that I have problems and need someone to listen to when I talk about my problems. Being someone who has some Asperger's Syndrome, I would not necessary pick up to signals. Very often I would misinterpret those signals and arrive at a totally different conclusion.  

Imagine the scenario, I misinterpret the signals, and as a result of the misinterpretation, I apply an incorrect action to it. I know that what I providing could be right, but from my wife's perspective, I am totally wrong. Sometimes, I come across as an uncaring person. This is far from the case. This is totally my problem, and I need to way to overcome this problem.

I have not got a clue on how to overcome this problem. Anyone?

1 comment:

ian in hamburg said...

Maybe it's not a problem at all. In your previous post you mentioned that you were contemplating a professional evaluation. That should be your first move before deciding on any course of action. Until then, you'll spend time worrying about a problem that may not even exist.